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Kingdom Goals and Purpose

drpeg — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 04:35:03 +0000

February 17, 2012 – Minister Kay Franklin and Dr. Peg discuss Kingdom goals, purpose, and vision.

Listen live every Friday at 4 pm Mountain Time (6 pm Eastern) to Living Well with Dr. Peg on 1220 AM in Denver and live on the web at www.1220kldc.com.

Fathers and Sons

drpeg — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 01:25:22 +0000

January 27, 2012 – Psychologist, Dr. Keith Hinderlie discusses fatherhood and the father-son relationship on the Living Well with Dr. Peg show. He says when a father-son relationship is at its best, it looks like Batman and Robin!

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Notes to My Daughter

drpeg — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 03:53:35 +0000

January 20, 2012 – Author David Dixon discusses fatherhood and his book, Notes to My Daughter on the Living Well with Dr. Peg show.

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iBooks Author!

drpeg — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 21:31:53 +0000

Can’t wait to try this out! I am a big fan already of CreateSpace.com, a service of Amazon. Apple’s iBooks Author gives self-published authors like me another outlet for publishing and selling books.

http://www.apple.com/ibooks-author/

Dad Under Construction

drpeg — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 01:10:32 +0000

January 13, 2012 – Author Whitney Traylor discusses fatherhood and his book, Dad Under Construction on the Living Well with Dr. Peg show.

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Inspiration for Aspiring Authors!

drpeg — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 20:32:04 +0000

My friend Jeri shared a link to an amazing story about a woman who self-published her novel on Amazon and other ebookstores and sold over a million books in less than 2 years. She says it took her a lot of hard work and 17 rejected, unpublished novels to become the “overnight success” that she is today.

Morals of the story:

Don’t give up.
Think outside of the box.
Have confidence in yourself!

To read Amanda Hocking’s story, click here. To register for my Non-Fiction Writing Workshop and become the author you’ve always dreamed of being, click here.

Intercessory Prayer and 40 Days of Community

drpeg — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 23:27:28 +0000

January 6, 2012 – Minister Kay Franklin is the guest host of this episode on Intercessory Prayer and 40 Days of Community.

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Change is SCARY!

drpeg — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 05:33:22 +0000

In our culture, fear and horror are best-selling commodities. Halloween, including its haunted houses, ghosts, skeletons, and black cats, delights children of all ages. Who hasn’t enjoyed seeing a movie that puts you on the edge of your seat? Right after you scream with horror, you giggle with glee. But, if you mention the word “change,” nobody laughs. The fear you enjoy in a dark theater becomes a paralyzing obstacle in the light of real life.

Take a look at some of the problems you are facing in your life right now. It might seem that things are happening to you for no apparent reason or people are simply out to get you. But, if you examine the events leading up to your situation, you will discover that fear has been a significant contributing, if not causal, factor. You were too afraid to either say no or yes.

One of the biggest causes of fear is the unknown. This is especially true when you believe the unknown (or unseen) is dangerous or likely to result in pain or punishment. When your mind has no conception of what is in front of you, it generates the unpleasant emotion of fear. You will be reluctant to walk into what you can’t see or visualize.

What if you can see perfectly what’s ahead of you? There is no uncertainty about it, but it is something you’ve never done before. Doing something different is scary because it’s new and unfamiliar.

So maybe it’s not unknown and it’s not unfamiliar. You know what it requires; you’ve even done it before. But you think to yourself, “What if something bad happens this time? What if I embarrass myself? What if it doesn’t go as expected?” You could ask yourself what-if questions until it results in mental confusion and paralysis. Imagining what could happen is usually worse than what is actually likely to happen.

Most “what-if” questions involve your fears about the worst possible thing that could happen. But many people also suffer from a fear of success. “What if I actually get everything I’ve been hoping for?” Now that’s scary! Achieving success will require you to operate in a realm that is unfamiliar and unknown. These are the very things that make change so scary. And what if your success still leaves you feeling empty and unfulfilled? You will always feel empty when your value is tied to what you do and not who you are. In order not to feel afraid of success, you’ll have to focus more on your effort and enjoyment of the process and take your attention off of the success or failure of the outcome.

Another strategy to overcome what-if thinking and put your situation in its proper perspective is to ask yourself, “And then what?” Follow that up with the question, “How likely is that to actually happen?” You will be surprised where you end up when you are willing to ask these two simple, logical questions.

Here’s an example:

“I’m afraid to go for that promotion. What if I don’t get it?”

“And then what?”

“Everyone will think I’m a loser.”

“And how likely is that to actually happen?”

“Not likely. I have several friends on the job.”

“And then what?”

“They might even put in a good word for me with the boss.”

A friend once told me that FEAR stands for “False Evidence Appearing Real.” When you combat fear with a sound mind and rational thinking, you’ll be on your way to producing the change you want!

Persevere!

(This blog is an excerpt from my book, Do Something Different…For a Change).

Why Do I Do What I Don’t Want to Do and Don’t Do What I Want to Do?

drpeg — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 05:05:07 +0000

For the new year, did you resolve to exercise more, eat better, or quit smoking? If you are like most people, you’ll be enthusiastic for a few days, and then, well, “things” will get in the way. Using a little psychology, you can evaluate your New Year’s resolutions and develop an effective plan to accomplish your goals.

Stages of Change

Psychologists James Prochaska, John Norcross, and Carlo DiClemente have developed one of the most widely cited theories of change. Their Transtheoretical Model of Change centers around six stages: precontemplation; contemplation; preparation; action; maintenance; and termination (Prochaska, et al., 1994).

1. Precontemplation – not thinking about or interested in changing.

2. Contemplation – thinking about changing and evaluating the pros and cons, but have not yet taken any steps

3. Preparation – committing to change and developing a plan of what to do to achieve desired goals

4. Action – actually taking steps to change

5. Maintenance – taking action as needed to prevent slipping back or having a relapse

6. Termination – feeling confident in new behavior change with no temptation to slip back

When deciding on a New Year’s resolution, you should be careful not to bypass the very important preparation stage and jump straight to the action stage. If you have been a couch potato for the last five years and have just started thinking that you probably should exercise more (contemplation), setting a New Year’s resolution of running 7 miles every day (action) is probably too big a leap for most people – not just physically, but psychologically. Prochaska, Norcross, and DiClimente would suggest that your success is more likely if you first spend some time in the preparation stage, for example, solidifying your commitment to run, establishing a clear running schedule, having a plan for inclement weather, and mapping out a route.

Get Motivated!

Another factor that will help you stick with your New Year’s resolutions is a better understanding of your motivation. Motivation is simply your reason(s) for acting or behaving in a particular way.

Psychologists William Miller and Stephen Rollnick, experts in a counseling technique called Motivational Interviewing, assert that the question we should ask ourselves is not, “why aren’t I motivated?” but rather, “for what am I motivated?” (2002). What is your motivation for your particular New Year’s resolution (or any behavior for that matter)? What do you really want as a result? If you maintain your focus on why you want to achieve a particular goal, you will be more likely to achieve it. If you lose sight of your motivation – your reasons for doing what you’re doing – over time, you may find it hard to stick with your resolution.

Are You Sure?

Don’t be surprised if you find yourself slipping back into your old behavior, doing what you don’t want to do and not doing what you want to do. Until you form a new habit, you may become ambivalent about your goal. You may ask yourself, “Is this really worth it? Do I really want to do this?” Change is hard, it’s scary, and it comes at a cost, and therefore, Miller and Rollnick believe that ambivalence is a natural part of change. Part of you wants to change but another part of you does not. This is the classic “approach-avoidance” conflict. Miller and Rollnick contend that resolving your ambivalence is a key to change (2002).

One effective strategy to resolve your ambivalence is to identify the pros and cons of change. If you can conclude that the benefits of changing outweigh the benefits of remaining the same (and the costs of remaining the same are greater than the costs of changing), you will be well on your way to achieving your New Year’s resolutions.

With adequate commitment and preparation, you’ll be able to take appropriate and sustained action and before you know it, you’ll experience the lasting change you desire. Now that’s good psychology!

References

Miller, W. and Rollnick, S. (2002). Motivational interviewing: Preparing people for change (2^nd ed.). New York, NY: Guilford Press.

Prochaska, J.O.; Norcross, J.C.; and DiClemente, C.C. (1994). Changing for good: The revolutionary program that explains the six stages of change and teaches you how to free yourself from bad habits. New York, NY: W. Morrow.

Do Something Different for a Change in 2012

drpeg — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 04:22:10 +0000

December 30, 2011 – A panel of experts discusses new year’s resolutions and goal setting related to fitness, weight loss, finances, relationships, and self esteem on the Living Well with Dr. Peg show.

Guests: Shainika Jacobs, Kim Farmer, Jendayi Harris, Teresa McCaskill.

Listen live every Friday at 4 pm MST/6 pm EST on 1220 AM in Denver and 1220kldc.com on the web. To become a sponsor of the 2012 season of Living Well with Dr. Peg, please visit www.drpegonline.com/sponsor